03-11-2018, 10:43 AM
I was homeless for many years when on CRVL.
I considered myself homeless despite having a vehicle because I never got to the point of being able to live comfortably--sufficient food, a comfortable bed, clean clothing and sheets, warm enough in winter and cool enough in summer. All the suggestions and advice in the world could not make me more capable of building my setup beyond what I already had, or make my limitations--which cut out large swaths of options, e.g. using laundromats or hanging out in a coffee shop to cool off or using much food from food banks--disappear.
Moving into the RV was a night and day difference. Though I technically still meet some definitions of "homeless", I no longer consider myself so.
I became homeless and stayed homeless because a variety of factors put me there and kept me there. It was not drugs or alcohol or a refusal to be civilized. I was too disabled to work, in fact too disabled to care for myself even. I'd be unable to leave my van at all for days on end, and sometimes had to rely on strangers to help me drink water because I didn't have the strength. I was only well enough to drive on some days, and would regularly get so sick that it was coming out both ends while I was in level 10 pain and my van would get trashed by it. And I would be too weak to clean it up.
No one wants to live in their own filth. No one.
I was in touch with all social services available to me at the time. They were not able to do much for me, and I was exasperated as I ran circles around my case manager whose job it was to find me resources and solutions. They did a 5 minute google search, whereas I researched extensively and made phone calls and did everything possible. I was not medically able to do shared housing, as my airways react severely to the products other people use. Also, my PTSD reacts severely to noise other people make in shared living spaces. When I moved out on the streets, I began to heal. But progress was stymied by the immense stress of fighting daily for survival amidst cruel and unusual limitations and situations.
All of my best efforts were not enough to spring myself out.
Every stage of improvement has come about by 1) community, and 2) luck.
I only even had a van in the first place because two internet friends pooled together a loan for me to get one. When it turned out to be a lemon and I was in debt and it was not running after over 1K in repairs, my dad got me another van and traded it to me for the old one. (Later that turned into a loan, but I can handle that now.) Various strangers saved my life on various occasions, most dramatically from severe hypothermia. Then I began dating my now fiance, who moved in with me when I collapsed on our third date and needed caregiving. With a caregiver, better food, and an abundance of happiness,
my condition improved.
We lucked out when a car accident that wasn't our fault totaled his van but kept our injuries minor enough to walk away. (Though it still took about a year to recover). The money from that made it possible to buy the RV, which we lucked out on because, following up on a Craigslist ad, we found out his aunt was the seller and we got an incredible deal! After a *year* of RV spots falling through, we lucked out on getting a spot at this RV park, only because we happened to visit on a day when they had a cancellation and hadn't yet called the wait list. "If you want it, it's yours."
People want to think that if you just try, you can get somewhere. In my experience the trying is important, but people helping and luck are two other essential factors.
Now I have a job (again, luck--I work at a place that employs only two people and caters to folks with my medical condition), and I pay the bills while my fiance continues his healing journey. I'm now more able-bodied than he is. There are a couple homeless people who hold signs at a street corner near us. I do what I can, which is usually hand out ginger candy and chat with them while waiting for the light to turn. I learn their names, I tell them to hang in there and that somebody cares. I say I know how it is and that I wish I could do more. I ask what they need most and if it's something cheap, like a $2 tarp, I get it for them when I can.
I have never seen them drunk, high, or behaving in a disorderly manner. They have always been completely respectful to me. They tell me about their plans, their dreams, and their day to day life. One of them isn't all with it, you can tell by talking to him, but ask him about his crows and he'll describe their behavior and reasons for it with more knowledge than anyone on the discovery channel.
I just see people. People who were once me and could one day be me again. Everyone tries. Not all limitations are visible, or able to be overcome by sheer willpower.
I considered myself homeless despite having a vehicle because I never got to the point of being able to live comfortably--sufficient food, a comfortable bed, clean clothing and sheets, warm enough in winter and cool enough in summer. All the suggestions and advice in the world could not make me more capable of building my setup beyond what I already had, or make my limitations--which cut out large swaths of options, e.g. using laundromats or hanging out in a coffee shop to cool off or using much food from food banks--disappear.
Moving into the RV was a night and day difference. Though I technically still meet some definitions of "homeless", I no longer consider myself so.
I became homeless and stayed homeless because a variety of factors put me there and kept me there. It was not drugs or alcohol or a refusal to be civilized. I was too disabled to work, in fact too disabled to care for myself even. I'd be unable to leave my van at all for days on end, and sometimes had to rely on strangers to help me drink water because I didn't have the strength. I was only well enough to drive on some days, and would regularly get so sick that it was coming out both ends while I was in level 10 pain and my van would get trashed by it. And I would be too weak to clean it up.
No one wants to live in their own filth. No one.
I was in touch with all social services available to me at the time. They were not able to do much for me, and I was exasperated as I ran circles around my case manager whose job it was to find me resources and solutions. They did a 5 minute google search, whereas I researched extensively and made phone calls and did everything possible. I was not medically able to do shared housing, as my airways react severely to the products other people use. Also, my PTSD reacts severely to noise other people make in shared living spaces. When I moved out on the streets, I began to heal. But progress was stymied by the immense stress of fighting daily for survival amidst cruel and unusual limitations and situations.
All of my best efforts were not enough to spring myself out.
Every stage of improvement has come about by 1) community, and 2) luck.
I only even had a van in the first place because two internet friends pooled together a loan for me to get one. When it turned out to be a lemon and I was in debt and it was not running after over 1K in repairs, my dad got me another van and traded it to me for the old one. (Later that turned into a loan, but I can handle that now.) Various strangers saved my life on various occasions, most dramatically from severe hypothermia. Then I began dating my now fiance, who moved in with me when I collapsed on our third date and needed caregiving. With a caregiver, better food, and an abundance of happiness,
my condition improved.
We lucked out when a car accident that wasn't our fault totaled his van but kept our injuries minor enough to walk away. (Though it still took about a year to recover). The money from that made it possible to buy the RV, which we lucked out on because, following up on a Craigslist ad, we found out his aunt was the seller and we got an incredible deal! After a *year* of RV spots falling through, we lucked out on getting a spot at this RV park, only because we happened to visit on a day when they had a cancellation and hadn't yet called the wait list. "If you want it, it's yours."
People want to think that if you just try, you can get somewhere. In my experience the trying is important, but people helping and luck are two other essential factors.
Now I have a job (again, luck--I work at a place that employs only two people and caters to folks with my medical condition), and I pay the bills while my fiance continues his healing journey. I'm now more able-bodied than he is. There are a couple homeless people who hold signs at a street corner near us. I do what I can, which is usually hand out ginger candy and chat with them while waiting for the light to turn. I learn their names, I tell them to hang in there and that somebody cares. I say I know how it is and that I wish I could do more. I ask what they need most and if it's something cheap, like a $2 tarp, I get it for them when I can.
I have never seen them drunk, high, or behaving in a disorderly manner. They have always been completely respectful to me. They tell me about their plans, their dreams, and their day to day life. One of them isn't all with it, you can tell by talking to him, but ask him about his crows and he'll describe their behavior and reasons for it with more knowledge than anyone on the discovery channel.
I just see people. People who were once me and could one day be me again. Everyone tries. Not all limitations are visible, or able to be overcome by sheer willpower.


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