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Dog Parks and Distractions
#11
Blanch you really know how to make an old man cry.  My Mom lived in Anderson,In and I live in Texas and the last year she was alive I went to stay with her three times for a couple weeks at a time to give my sister who lived close to Mom a break.  She was on hospice for about 6 months and it sure was comforting to me to have someone to call in the middle of the night when things always seem to be most desperate.

Mom HAD TO WATCH Jeopardy EVERY NIGHT and then Wheel of Fortune.  I never watched either one but suffered through them for her.  Now almost every evening I watch The Wheel and make myself watch Jeopardy sometimes.

When my Dad died I went back to Indiana for his funeral just for my Mom.  The last time I saw my Mom I told her I wouldn't be back for her funeral because she wasn't going to be there either, and she was agreeable with that.  I felt like my time was better spent with her while she was still here.
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#12
my mom is home at 91 and in good health but she can't seem to follow fast moving tv shows anymore.

family feud by the bucketload and the friggin' worse if Maury, Jerry Springer, that Robert Irvine guy show and that other guy, Steve something. We call them who's your daddy shows....omg shoot me, they are the most horrible shows on the planet but she loves them. Makes my skin crawl, I suffer thru them all with her tho.
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#13
Thank you all for your kind thoughts and stories.

Dog park today was packed. The puppies ran and chased and worked off their excess energy. I love a good dog park!

My brother arrived. We are all going through our process of acceptance. Mom went into a coma today. A blessing I suppose. I’m spending the day watching documentaries on serial killers. It’s the next logical step after Law and Order isn’t it?




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I've typed and erased many times here. My dad lingered for a year on hospice with my mother taking care of him. I drove the 250 miles each way each weekend for that year. When he finally passed, it was a relief for everybody and we knew that he no longer suffered. Thoughts are with you this evening.
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My mom lasted a whole horrid week in a coma. Dad went in 24 hours. It is a very tough time and families can get weird. Each person takes it different. I’m so glad you have the distraction of a dog park and something to watch to get you through. Talk to her as if she knows what you are saying. Hold her hand. Put lip gloss on her mouth. Comfort her and each other.
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#16
I’ve never had the experience of being with a family member in hospice, so I can’t even imagine how it is.
I have read that Buddhists consider it an honor to be with the dying in their last days. They say there is a light to reach for.
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Very sorry again Blanch. Things seem to be progressing and everyone is trying to accept and come to terms. All anyone can do. Prayers with you and your family!
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Mom died last night with me at her side. She isn’t in pain anymore.

Hospice came and declared her dead and then the mortuary picked her up. Her caregiver came and sat with her and said goodbye as she cleaned the body. It was all very efficient and a lot less stressful than when dad died. I suppose, if you’ve been through the process, it is easier to do a second time.

She isn’t in pain anymore, and that’s an easy thing to grasp.

Thank you all for your kind words.




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(((Blanch)))

Hugs from here, glad your mom isn’t suffering anymore. Hope you can get back to nature soon to find your feet and soothe your soul.
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I’m sorry for your loss but I’m glad for you it wasn’t long. Good for you to be there with her!
It is still quite a lot of stress. Take the dogs out... do something normal... well kind of.
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